Our Best Self // Part One

The truth is, you never had control in the first place. The only thing you do control is how you respond to your disappointments and unexpected obstacles. And here you have some options.

You can allow the river of fear, anger, and disappointment to just rage…

Another possibility is to keep trying harder. You can turn yourself inside out trying to make things happen…

But you have yet another choice.

You can get to the place where you can say, ‘Not my will, but your will [God]. I’m not in control. You are.’

If you can do that, if you can leave the puppet strings in the hands of someone who actually knows what he is doing, you’ll have a lot better chance of surviving your shattered dreams. – Pete Wilson, Putting Plan B Into Action

It was after 2:30 a.m. and one too many sleepless nights when I finally decided enough is enough.

It’s time to let go of our anger toward those who were only ever our friends when they saw our faces on a regular basis.

It’s time to stop holding onto all the untrue words that have ever been spoken about our character.

It’s time to forgive those who’ve made us feel small and stripped us of our worth because we know they don’t define who we are.

It’s time to give freely and to stop expecting anything in return.

It’s time to create our best selves.

For the next three weeks, I’ll be setting three goals that will help us live with intention and purpose.

It’s time to move forward.

It’s time to grow.


1. Be honest with yourself

No one knows you better than you. And no one knows what you need better than you. I’ve always struggled with listening to my gut, but when I finally do, things seem to always work out the way they’re supposed to. If you need to cut ties from an unhealthy relationship, do it right now. If you need to reschedule an appointment with your therapist, do it right now. If you need to get away, do it right now. If you need to forgive the one person you hate most, do it right now. If you need to have a serious conversation, do it right now. If you need to scream, do it right now.

It’s time to stop waiting. You know what you need.

2. Let it go

As much as it drives us crazy, we can’t control other’s actions or words so stop letting them consume you. You can’t change how someone feels about you and you can’t take back how badly you hurt someone years ago. Figure out what your course of action is and let it go.

Letting go isn’t being weak, it’s part of growing.

Forget what is gone, appreciate what still remains, and look forward to what’s coming next.

3. Think about the big picture

What matters today most likely won’t matter in a few years. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in our current situation and wonder when things will start getting better. When will things start getting easier. Things will get better, but life will never be easy. Let go of the stress and the drama that eventually won’t matter. Don’t exchange your happiness and what you want the most for a very brief moment of time.

We would do well to slow down a little, focus on the significant, lift our eyes, and truly see the things that matter. – Dieter F. Uchtdorf


How can you focus your energy on becoming your best self this week?






  1. “You know what you need.” YES YES YES. I finally admitted to myself yesterday how frazzled I’m feeling from moving and solo parenting quite a bit lately, and I scheduled myself for a day off this week and a week off next month. WOO!!!

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